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Do not forget this: 90 percent of everything is crap. Your first drafts of blog posts are crap, your first project is crap. You cannot find the 10 percent without producing crap.
Listening is an important skill we have touched upon more than once here.
Here are my fav recommendations:
Do...allow for pauses and silence. The first thing a person shares is rarely what they really want to express. Your pauses and silence invite the speaker to reflect on what they've said and go a layer deeper
Don't...shift to your own experience too quickly. Even if you can relate to what the speaker is going through, stay focused on the speaker's experience instead of shifting the conversation to your own.
And most importantly: Don't...be thinking about what to say next. When we want to be helpful, sometimes we get distracted trying to figure out how we're going to respond. Stay present and connected instead of worrying about what to say.
Here is good advice to keep in mind. Relate it with the first rule. 90 percent of everything is crap. But you have to start somewhere.
I am a sucker for all the research on happiness. Here is good summation of new findings:
Lifestyle has a significant impact on well being: Those who aged well: • Were physically active • Didn't smoke or drink much • Had low body weight • Enjoyed stable marriages.
The most important finding: Close relationships are the strongest predictor of happiness ― even more so than social class, IQ, fame, money, or even genes. The folks most satisfied with their relationships at 50, were also the healthiest at age 80.
🧠1 Enlightening Infographic
The companies with the most patent list caught my attention this week. IBM has been leading the list for almost 0 years. Although they seem to lose some chip battles, they always find new ways to come back, it seems.
I did expect Tesla here, maybe just because I saw Toyota and Ford.
📝 3 Articles:
First article of the week is ways to live healthy. I do not think you need any other point to add to this list.
My highlights:
Eat home-cooked family dinners
According to one study, eating out twice a day increases your chance of an early death by 95%. Cooking is your best bet.
Let yourself feel hunger
Don’t get bogged down with YouTube videos on “the right way to intermittently fast.” As renowned Harvard geneticist Dr. David Sinclair told us: “We don’t know the best method. We do know that if you’re never hungry, if you’re eating three meals a day and snacking in between, that’s the worst thing you can do. It switches off your body’s defenses.”
Drink red wine at 5:00 p.m.
Like dark chocolate, red wine comes from a plant source that is rich in cholesterol-lowering flavanols.
Second article of the week was an interesting find for me: How Testosterone Therapy Is Transforming Aging. I learned that wealthy men over 40s try to use testosterone to stay healthy and young. Oh man, there is nothing a human being cannot do if the younger life is promised.
Testosterone is associated with physical changes like muscle growth and mental changes like confidence and aggression, though there is robust debate over the extent to which those effects should be understood as “masculine,” to what extent they’re shaped by existing social context, and whether these therapies show effects at a population level.
I loved this compilation of existential quotes from various philosophies. I do not know why exactly but I am easily hooked when some information is given to me as a list or rules.
“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” (If you can persuade yourself)
“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” (Master Nietzsche, I hoped countless times that there was a better way)
“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” ( Some rules you can never bend, eh? )
“To go wrong in one’s own way is better than to go right in someone else’s.” (I do not think it is necessarily true, but feeling the way is owned by you is a different kind of experience.)
“Man only likes to count his troubles; he doesn’t calculate his happiness.” (blame the evolution not Dosto)
“We are our choices.” (There are only 4 words, 4 words to explain all about you without leaving single bit outside.)
“There may be more beautiful times, but this one is ours.”
📺 2 Videos:
First video of this week is : Marcel Duchamp: The Art of Life. I do not know if it is because of the weather or of my sole pitty existence. I am fond of these art history videos.
Second video is the highest quality summary of The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene. Marx is brilliant with these summary videos, give him a follow.
📽️ 2 SERIES / FILM or DOCUMENTARY:
This week we continue on our journey of Swedish films: Everlasting Moments.
It was a slow but refreshing watch for me.
I have one other suggestion on this line. Although it is more like a dark comedy, you may want to give a try to You, the Living.
I am standing here, that’s what I am doing.
📜 2 Quotes:
If you don’t get what you want, it’s a sign either that you did not seriously want it, or that you tried to bargain over the price.
— RUDYARD KIPLING
1. Control your destiny or someone else will. 2. Face reality as it is, not as it was or you wish it were. 3. Be candid with everyone. 4. Do not manage, lead. 5. Change before you have to. 6. If you do not have a competitive advantage, do not compete.
— JACK WELCH
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This playlist is special, according to the article:
There is a word that describes this common human response to music — a word for “that moment” when a song pierces your body and soul. It’s called “frisson,” and it’s the reason why music from artists as seemingly disparate as Johnny Cash, Metallica, Céline Dion, and Mozart are all featured on a recently released, scientifically-backed playlist of songs that researchers claim are likely to give people “chills.” The 715-song playlist was curated by a team of neuroscientists and is available on Spotify.
So, it is everbody’s right feel some frison, right? :)