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Nice book list, I do not believe there are many books to change your life though. I do believe there are thousands of new perspectives you can gather from these books.
This was enlightening to watch:
Mastery is your secret weapon:
Wisdom:
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Letters to a Young Poet
This week’s read was a short one. I am regretful though why I did not read this masterpiece before.
Self-improvement is a lonely adventure. But you can share the valuable lessons through your network to help them grow with you. Remember that in order for you to grow some goals and desires need to be kept secret.
Be happy about your growth, in which of course you can’t take anyone with you, and be gentle with those who stay behind.
This is a gorgeous take on marriage from Rilke. Merging into one person is impossible. You must accept that there is infinite distance even between the closest people. Repeat after Rilke : “The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries.”
“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.
If you are not happy, do not blame it on the others. You are responsible for your own happiness. Never give up the fight. And also, do you need to be happy? Think about it.
If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches.
We cannot foresee the future. We are terrible at guessing what will make us happy. We have a hard time seeing second and third order consequences of events. Then just stay safe. No jumping to conclusions, give the event some time. Every decision is closing one door and killing millions of future scenarios while opening up millions of others.
Don’t be too quick to draw conclusions from what happens to you; simply let it happen.
What should I do? What is the meaning of life? What movie should I watch? Do I leave my girlfriend? How about living abroad? Does this make sense? Love the questions. There is no point in living if there are no questions left to be answered.
Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers.
Point is to live everything. Live the questions.
Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.
Loneliness and solitude mean different things. Do not mix them up. Love your solitude and it will be your biggest supporter on your way to the death.
But your solitude will be a support and a home for you, even in the midst of very unfamiliar circumstances, and from it you will find all your paths.
Every experience means something. Try not to run away from disturbing ones. See them as something that transforms you and your soul. Only this way you can give your full attention to them. The experiences that have the most growing potential require your full attention.
No experience has been too unimportant, and the smallest event unfolds like a fate, and fate itself is like a wonderful, wide fabric in which every thread is guided by an infinitely tender hand and laid alongside another thread and is held and supported by a hundred others.
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Best infographic I saw on cognitive biases. You have to learn what disturbances are there to your judgement in order to decide and choose well.
Here are some good recommendations of websites:
Ryan Holiday, master of storytelling strikes again.
The writers Kurt Vonnegut (Slaughterhouse Five) and Joseph Heller (Catch-22) were at a glamorous party outside New York City. Standing in the palatial second home of the billionaire host, Vonnegut began to needle his friend. “Joe,” he said, “how does it feel that our host only yesterday may have made more money than your novel has earned in its entire history?”
“I’ve got something he can never have,” Heller replied.
“The knowledge that I’ve got enough.”
I am sure you have seen this, but I have to share this in case anyone missed it. Kevin Kelly writes another good set of rules. 103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known
Dont keep making the same mistakes; try to make new mistakes.
When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.
About 99% of the time, the right time is right now.
Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them.
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This week I re-watched the play “Waiting for Godot”. It gives me chills every time.
Here is the play with English subtitle:
Here is the play with Turkish subtitle.
Nothing happens Nobody comes, nobody goes It s awful.
"Estragon: I can't go on like this.
Vladimir: That's what you think."
We wait. We are bored. No, don't protest, we are bored to death, there's no denying it. Good. A diversion comes along and what do we do? We let it go to waste. In an instant, all will vanish and we'll be alone once more, in the midst of nothingness.
Why are we here, that is the question? And we are blessed in this, that we happen to know the answer. Yes, in this immense confusion one thing alone is clear. We are waiting for Godot to come. ...We are not saints, but we have kept our appointment.
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We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness'."
― Beverly Clark (Shall We Dance)
“Nothing is miserable unless you think it so; and on the other hand, nothing brings happiness unless you are content with it.”
— Boethius
📱 1 Useful App/Website/Tool
This was a superb find for me. I love going for walks in the forest to recharge. This site will give you noise records from the forests of the world. Exhilarating.
Favorite one from the site is Slovakia for now.