Ruggets #3: 10 Books I Read in 2021, 1 Quote from Each
Here is a list of what stuck with me from 2021.
Here is my list of books from 2021, in particular order this time. I cannot emphasize how much you need to read the number #1. And as always, number 2 is a re-read. Yeah I know, I have some kind of a disease to read the books I love more than once. Marcus’ diary is my must-read every year. I wish I’d never read so that I can read it for the first time.
Happiness: A Philosopher’s Guide
The path matters more than the goal: happiness comes as we make our journey.
Meditations
In short, know this: Human lives are brief and trivial. Yesterday a blob of semen; tomorrow embalming fluid, ash.
Think Again:
Psychologists have long found that the person most likely to persuade you to change your mind is you. You get to pick the reasons you find most compelling, and you come away with a real sense of ownership over them.
The Decision Book:
We see only what we want to see, and ignore everything that contradicts our view. We look for arguments that reinforce our position.
The Coaching Habit:
One of the most compelling things you can do after asking a question is to genuinely listen to the answer. Stay curious, my friend.
Chatter:
“Studies show that when people are going through a difficult experience, asking them to imagine how they’ll feel about it ten years from now, rather than tomorrow, can be another remarkably effective way of putting their experience in perspective. Doing so leads people to understand that their experiences are temporary, which provides them with hope.”
BAD ARGUMENTS:
Sunk Cost Fallacy: The way to avoid this fallacy is to not allow the fear of losing what was already invested in something to influence your rational, objective decision about a present or future investment. In Eric Nielsen’s (2005) words, when making any decision, economic or otherwise, it “makes no sense to factor in sunk costs precisely because they are sunk; no present action can change them. No matter what happens, the sunk costs are always there.
RANGE:
Everyone is digging deeper into their own trench and rarely standing up to look in the next trench over, even though the solution to their problem happens to reside there.
Listen Like You Mean It
To start, we must first do the work of getting into the right mindset. This means approaching a conversation with the intention to fully receive and engage with our conversation partner in an empathetic way. It means committing to meeting our conversation partner where they are, without expectations, and focusing less on our own inner narratives (and perhaps even our own needs) in the moment. Specifically, it means bringing an open mind— one of empathy (naturally), humility, and curiosity—to the conversation. Because each of these qualities asks us to shift our focus away from the self and toward the other, without this mindset, it is difficult to deliver on the promise of empathetic listening and truly connect with others.
A Calendar of Wisdom :
We have to fulfill honestly and irreproachably the work destined for us. Itdoes not matter whether we hope that we will become angels some day, or believe that we have originated from slugs. —JOHN RUSKIN
Your enemy will pay you back with rage, will make you suffer, but the biggest damage to you will be caused by the rage and hatred existing in your heart. Neither your father, nor your mother, nor all your family can make you more good than your heart can when it forgives and forgets its abuse. —DHAMMAPADA, a book of BUDDHIST WISDOM
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